‘The Thirst is Real.’
Thirst is not something new, Destiny Child’s warned us about thirsty guys in Bug-A Boo. Myspace and Facebook had it’s fair share of it , but it seems thirst reached an all time high with Instagram.
Now I know we can argue that uploads like this promote thirst, but this guy said he would kick his mum’s head. Really?
So Instagram aside, its fair to say the term ‘thirsty’ has come along and shaken up the game. The fear of showing any signs of dehydration means that guys are acting a certain type of way. ‘Chivalry died when females renamed it thirst.’
So my thing is when does chivalry or pursuing become thirst? The epitome of a thirsty guy to me is ‘ The African Uncles’ , I am sure we are all aware of them. The uncles who refuse to take no for an answer , you give them every excuse possible ( A List below in-case you ever get stuck )
‘I am 15.’
‘I have a boyfriend’
‘I am a lesbian’
‘I don’t like black men.’
‘I am sure you are actually related to me’
Yet they keep on trying , and stay persistent. This to me, is a thirsty guy. We can not compare this kind of thirst to a guy that is being polite or paying you attention. And you definitely can not call a guy thirsty if you are entertaining him in any sort of way. I know too many girls complaining about ‘thirsty guys’ yet replying to texts , accepting gifts and getting a little carried away with compliments.
So in order to clarify when pursuing becomes thirst , I asked a few of my friends and got some interesting answers.
Q: Is pursuing thirst? / When does pursuing become thirst ?
A: ‘ A guy should intuitively know when he is turning thirsty, if you get that feeling that she is just not into you , or she tells you she is not that into you, and you are still pursuing, then it’s thirst. If you are trying and getting zero back , you are not only thirsty , you are mentally ill.’
A: ‘When you start begging , making yourself look desperate for this person. When you start commenting on Instagram asking for kik. What the hell is kik anyway? ‘
A: ‘Wooing a girl , and trying to pursue a girl is not thirsty. Girls love to try and play hard to get. It’s if you are getting no feedback in the process , you should call it a day and keep it moving. ‘
A:’ When you are getting nothing back. Comments like ‘baby you look good I want to eat you.’ Just stop at ‘baby you look good.’
A: ‘ There’s nothing wrong with a red blooded male pursuing a subject of he’s desire. However there are boundaries. You never want to make the girl cringe , or in fact scare the girl. Pursue, but never scare!
So the general view is that ,it is only thirst if you are getting nothing back. So if she is replying and giving you the time of day, keep at it. God loves a trier.
*SIDE NOTE* Lets not forget , girls can be thirsty too, so your ‘good morning’ , ‘good night’, ‘hello stranger’ messages may be cute to you, but it might just come across as little thirsty.
Let me know what you think.