Style Snap: Bloom & Blossom

Not just reserved for the sporty types , the bomber jacket has had a makeover this season , with floral prints, luxe textures and colourful fabrics. It is real statement piece and a great alternative to the leather jacket. 

 

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I found this floral number on Leather Lane for just a fiver. Leather Lane might just be my favourite place to shop right now , its a market right by Chancery Lane and it has the best fashion finds for dirt cheap prices. I teamed it with an all white out fit to allow it to really stand out.

White Crop Top  Topshop // White Joni Jeans Topshop // Similar bomber Tesco

 

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Style Snap : It’s a girl

I have decided that I will be doing more fashion posts, I am a big fan of fashion, and shopping is one of my favourite things to do, so its only right I show off my outfits. Now, when I say shopping, I mean hunting around for the best bargains, not everyday designers, sometimes Zara sale and Primark will do. So look out for lots of outfit posts, on a budget.

 

 

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It was my sisters baby shower this weekend , and since she is having a little girl, I had to wear pink. I love the full skirt trend. Its so feminine, and lady like and I am all about overt femininity. I teamed it up with a denim shirt to add a little edge.I am so excited that we will be having another little bundle of joy in the family. I had so much fun organising the day, and of course I was the host with the most. I think I might be the coolest aunt ever. Here are a few snaps from the day. 

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Denim Shirt Primark / Pink Full Skirt Primark / Heels Select 

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Thirst or Chivalry

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‘The Thirst is Real.’

Thirst is not something new, Destiny Child’s warned us about thirsty guys in Bug-A Boo. Myspace and Facebook had it’s fair share of it , but it seems thirst reached an all time high with Instagram.

Just go on Instagram and within minutes you will see comments like this…Image

Now I know we can argue that uploads like this promote thirst, but this guy said he would kick his mum’s head. Really?

So Instagram aside, its fair to say the term ‘thirsty’ has come along and shaken up the game. The fear of showing any signs of dehydration means that guys are acting a certain type of way. ‘Chivalry died when females renamed it thirst.’

So my thing is when does chivalry or pursuing become thirst?  The epitome of a thirsty guy to me is  ‘ The African Uncles’ , I am sure we are all aware of them. The uncles who refuse to take no for an answer , you give them every excuse possible ( A List below in-case you ever get stuck )

‘I am 15.’

‘I have a boyfriend’

‘I am a lesbian’

‘I don’t like black men.’

‘I am sure you are actually related to me’

Yet they keep on trying , and stay persistent. This to me, is a thirsty guy. We can not compare this kind of thirst to a guy that is being polite or paying you attention. And you definitely can not call a guy thirsty if you are entertaining him in any sort of way. I know too many girls complaining about ‘thirsty guys’ yet replying to texts , accepting gifts and getting a little carried away with compliments.

So in order to clarify when pursuing becomes thirst , I asked a few of my friends and got some interesting answers.

Q: Is pursuing thirst? / When does pursuing become thirst ?

A: ‘ A guy should intuitively know when he is turning thirsty, if you get that feeling that she is just not into you , or she tells you she is not that into you, and you are still pursuing, then it’s thirst. If you are trying and getting zero back , you are not only thirsty , you are mentally ill.’

A: ‘When you start begging , making yourself look desperate for this person. When you start commenting on Instagram asking for kik. What the hell is kik anyway? ‘

A: ‘Wooing a girl , and trying to pursue a girl is not thirsty. Girls love to try and play hard to get.  It’s if you are getting no feedback in the process , you should call it a day and keep it moving. ‘

A:’ When you are getting nothing back. Comments like ‘baby you look good I want to eat you.’ Just stop at ‘baby you look good.’

A: ‘ There’s nothing wrong with a red blooded male pursuing a subject of he’s desire. However there are boundaries. You never want to make the girl cringe , or in fact scare the girl. Pursue, but never scare!

So the general view is that ,it is only thirst if you are getting nothing back. So if she is replying and giving you the time of day, keep at it. God loves a trier.

*SIDE NOTE* Lets not forget , girls can be thirsty too, so your ‘good morning’ , ‘good night’, ‘hello stranger’ messages may be cute to you, but it might just come across as little thirsty.

Let me know what you think.

Tolly

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London Fashion Week

London Fashion Week!

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I really didn’t want to do a post on Fashion Week, but being a ‘blogger’ it would be a cardinal sin to let the week go by without a mention. I got the amazing chance to go backstage at the Felder Felder and J.JS Lee shows. It was a great chance to see the hair and make-up looks before the show hit the catwalk.

Although it was amazing to see and be part of, I have decided that I am not the biggest fan of Fashion Week. I love the notion of Fashion Week, but my problem with it is the crowd it attracts.

Walking around Somerset House, I noticed that not many people actually looked good, yes I know fashion is objective and there is no one way to look good or be fashion forward. But rather than seeing amazing fashion, I felt like everyone was a gimmick. A kind of parody of what fashion people should look like. A lot of people didn’t have tickets for many shows, nor had much knowledge on what was going on, but rather went to fashion week to get noticed.

So rather than celebrating fashion, London Fashion Week has turned to a gimmick show, full of narcissistic people with a innate need to get attention

Drop me out !

I came across this video and it sums up everything that is wrong with Fashion Week.

 

 

 

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Benefit Gift Gallery

Benefit products are a huge treat for me, in fact the only Benefit product I have is  the Benefit Watt’s Up! Highlighter which was a gift , and I dread the day it finishes.

One of my favourite things about the brand is the packaging. I always find myself by the Benefit counter in Boots, the packaging design always draws me in, its feminine, sexy and so damn cute.

I was lucky enough to get invited to an exclusive viewing of the Benefit Gift Gallery. The viewing took place in The Gallery, London and it was a chance to see  Benefit’s gift sets for this Christmas. Along side the gift sets, the viewing also including art work by Boyard Messenger. I love her stuff, the collection, POP ART BOTTOMS, featured art work on women’s bum. She was a lovely lady, and she loved bums as much as I do , her art work is focused around femininity and empowering women. I propositioned my bum for her to paint, so my booty could be in art galleries soon.

The gift sets range from £50.00 to £20.00 , and all include amazing products in the cutest package, all ‘wrapped up in love.  These are some of my fav sets, and will be added to my Christmas wish list.

 

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This is my absolute fav. The ‘countdown to love’ advent calendar. It is a one-of-a-kind advent calendar that is filled with 24 beauty treats. Surely this is better than chocolate.

The advent calendar is £50.00 and it is a limited edition sold for one day only, on the 4th of November. It is available on the Benefit website  and selected Debenhams stores.

 

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The ‘Love at first shine’ lipgloss collection also caught my eye. It comes in six pretty shades and is only £19.50.

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This Best of Benefit gift set is also one for my Christmas wish list. It includes all the best products from Benefits. The primer , bronzer, mascara, cheek stain, concealer and highlighter, all of this just for £24.50. This set is exclusive to Boots stores.

I had a great time at the gallery, everything was so feminine  and pretty to look at , oh and they had cupcakes. :-)

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I love these paintings by by Boyarde Messenger.

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THE GOODIE BAG!

I love free stuff, even better when it is quality free stuff!

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The bag included the lip gloss set I had my eye one , happy days! The Crescent Row limited edition set, which includes 4 enticing fragrance minis (£29.50) which I am so happy with, I needed new smellys.

I also got the ‘ Groovy Kind-a love set, (£29.50) which includes a mini primer , mascara, lip and cheek tint, eye shadow, blusher and a handy little booklet that gives you make-up look ideas . I am so excited to try the mascara , its apparently the number one selling mascara in the UK .

 

Oh , and as if my day couldn’t get any better , I got my nails done at the event by a lovely nail tech, Michael , who has a salon in Teddington, London. In fitting with the pop art theme of the evening , I went for this

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* apologise for the not so great pictures, I only had my Iphone with me *

All the sets are available from October in exclusive Boots, Debenhams and the Benefit website.

 

Tolly

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Primark AW13

Primark revealed its Autunm/Winter 2013 collection recently, so I thought I should show you some of my favourite items. I love Primark, its the only shop I can just ‘throw it in the bag’, and then shamelessly remove it, when it adds up to too much, but with the price ranging from £6.00 – £30.00, I might actually be able to afford all these items. BALLINNGG!!

The collection has themes of bold prints, tartan, tweed and leather  or should I say pleather. The collection includes, cosy knit , shorts and tailored trousers, allowing a perfect transition from the summer months to Autumn days .

The collection is rather edgy and grown, and it takes inspiration from many of the A/W13 catwalk looks. The tough edgeness to the collection was was done by  Moschino and Holly Fulton .

I am rather impressed with this collection, and when put together correctly it can look expensive and even impress the snobbiest shoppers.

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 *Sidenote* The red and black heels , are really cute to look at, but I actually wouldn’t advise my worst enemy to get them. I am sure the devil himself makes Primark heels, the pain is very real!

Tolly.

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Wedding attire

I love weddings, although I am slowing starting to suffer from ‘always the bridesmaid, never the bride’, but hey my time will come **fingers, toes and every damn thing crossed.**

I went to a wedding this weekend, so I thought I should show you what I wore, and also add a face to the blog.

 

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Dress: H&M
Shoes: Zara 

(Both items were on sale, so I don’t have a link to share )

I really need to start shopping for wedding attire. I am getting invited to a lot more weddings, and my wardrobe is just not cutting it.

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Hair Colour : Crazy Colour  (Vermillion Red)

Lipstick : Lord & Berry (Mandarino)

Like I said before, I was not in love with the short weave I did at the salon, so I did a bit of DIY, and installed a upart wig with a closure, and dyed the weave from brown to red.

I curled my hair using Babyliss Pro Perfect Curl, my new favourite toy. Have a look at the link to see how it works, you need to see it to believe it.

 

Tolly 

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BaByliss PRO Argan Oil Hair Care Range, Review

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So when it comes to my own hair, I don’t look after it very well. In fact I think I look after my weave more that I do my own hair (this is where ‘good haired girls ‘ log off and scream profanities at me) but hey I pay good money for my weave , my hair grows on my head .

BUT I have decided its time to change my ways. So when Babyliss sent me the BaByliss Argan Oil hair care range I thought I should give it a go. One because my hair was in a bad way, and two after doing my hair myself for so long I was treating myself and doing my hair at the salon and I couldn’t face going to the salon with bad hair, ( this is the same logic I use when I have a trim before getting a bikini wax )

I have not relaxed my hair in 7 months, I have had a closure and braids so I have not needed to. So my hair was BAD and true to my Nigerian roots very tough! Putting a comb through it actually gave me a headache, so I was expecting a miracle from the range.

The range comes with shampoo, conditioner, restorative mask and nourishing treatment oil, all with Argan oil.I used all the products as recommended, so I shampooed, conditioned and applied the restorative mask, I left the mask on for a lot longer than the advised 5-10 minutes in order to get a deep treatment. I finished by using the nourishing oil treatment.

I absolutely love this range! It is amazing stuff. It gave my hair all sorts of life. It left my hair feeling deeply moisturised, and gave it an added shine without being oily, and I could actually put a comb through my hair.

My fave from the range is the oil, I have been using it on a frequently on my hair and it has stopped my hair from being dry, it has become a staple product in my styling regime.

All the products smell amazing without being over powering.The prices ranges from £6.95 to £10.95 which compared to other Argan oil products is well priced. www.babylisspro.co.uk

*Side Note* After my experience at the hair salon, I remembered why I do my hair myself. 7 hours spent in a hot crowed salon, a panic attack and £60.00 less off and I don’t even love the hair.  BOO!

Dose my Weave Make me less Black?

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Dose my Weave Make me less Black?

In the words of India Arie, I am not my hair. 

So to all you natural manned girls, Well Done! 
I congratulate you, however I am sick to death of this 
notion that because I relax my hair, I am somehow less of a black girl. 

I have seen and read so many debates about why natural 
hair is better, even Chris Rock's 'Good Hair' couldn't 
get me off the creamy crack. My want for straight hair or weave is not
 down to me conforming to western norms. 
I wear a weave because I believe it looks nice. I believe
I look prettier with my 22inch Brazilian weave, hence why
I pay big money for it 

My hair does not define my 'blackness'

So to all the weave wearers and all the natural girls too
why much our hair define so much of our 'black identity'?

Daddy Issues

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I think its fair to conclude that I have daddy issues. Not the daddy issues that make me seek attention from men to some how compensate the attention I didn’t get from my father, nor the daddy issues that makes me hate men, although I am a firm believer that #niggasaintshit, but rather daddy issues that makes me lose faith in men, and expect constant disappointment from them.

Growing up in  a single family household, I never felt at a disadvantage to my friends who had a mother and father. In fact I felt I was better off with just my mum, just one parent to seek permission from, just the one parent to be annoyed by. I had a GOOD mum, and for me that was enough .

It was not until I grew older , and realised that maybe it would have been nice to have my dad around. I know my dad, he was never a stranger to me, although I spent most of my life living with just my mum, I spoke to my dad often, got sent birthday cards, and saw him sometimes ( a few times every couple of years ) , but my dad was always emotionally distant to me. I never felt a huge affection towards him, to be honest I had friends who I cared more for. I never hated him, but I never loved him, I was just never that bothered.

It was not until a few years ago that I realised I really was bothered. I was at a wedding when I witnessed a father and daughter dance, it was the first time I really felt jealous of someone for having a father. A father that she clearly loved, a father that was her hero, and in that moment I felt such resentment towards my dad. Because his actions meant I was never going to have that.

I got to a place where hated Father’s day , the notion of the day made me angry. I joined the gang of people who tweeted,

‘ Happy fathers day to my mum for being both a mother and father.’

But the truth is my mum is a great mum, but she has never been a father, she couldn’t be. She couldn’t be my positive male role model. She couldn’t show me how men should treat women. She couldn’t show me what it is to have a great man in my life, therefore allowing me to have high standards in men. She could never be my father.

So this fathers day, I have decided  not to hate the day, good fathers should be celebrated, and hopefully I will get to a stage where I can celebrate fathers day, and have a sincere relationship with my dad. I have decided to work at the relationship with my father, and if that doesn’t work out I can always find solace knowing I have my PAPA God !

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